How to Find The Courage To Be Yourself

How to Find The Courage To Be Yourself
How to Find The Courage To Be Yourself

Be yourself

It’s not impossible, but it takes courage. It takes courage to be and to think differently. But the act of being and thinking differently is only different to those looking at you from the outside.

If you make up your mind that you’re fully in control of your destiny — if you decide to choose what you want to believe in — then you’re not being different. You’re being you.

Recognize that those who say you’re crazy, or those who try to stop you from being or thinking differently, are only confronting their own demons; they’re trying to reaffirm their own beliefs.

If others give you advice, listen. If they tell you what you should or should not do, listen. But decide for yourself. Believe in yourself. Be yourself.

The only risk in being yourself is the risk of learning something about yourself. If you’re not willing to take that risk, then go ahead, follow the crowd; follow the well trodden path that so many others follow.

On the other hand, if you’re willing to learn, and to explore, and to discover, then step up to the plate. It’s your time to take charge. It’s time for you to shine. It’s time for you to take action and decide what you really want from life. It’s time to accept responsibility for being you.

Don’t be afraid. You can do this.

You will definitely make mistakes. Everybody does. Making mistakes is part of growing. It’s part of what it means to be human. If you’re afraid of making mistakes, then you’re afraid of being human! Doesn’t that sound silly? Why should you be afraid to be human?

Stop taking a comfortable, laid back approach to life. Stop taking it easy. Know that you are unique. And beautiful. And powerful. And smart. Know that you are capable of so much more than you currently believe. Know that as a human being your only limit to growth is the limit you decide to set for yourself.

Could you find happiness quietly settled in a mold that society expects you to sit in? Could you find happiness being like everybody else? Absolutely. But could you reach your full potential; your full potential to be happy, to love, to live? Absolutely not.

Your potential is limitless. Free yourself from false beliefs.

Those who love you will understand. Deep down inside they want you to be happy. They want you to be yourself. They want you to be real.

Be honest with yourself. Follow your intuition. Follow your inner compass.

Do you have a dream? Then follow it. Believe in it. Make it the driving force behind every single action; every single step. Dedicate every single breath to achieving that dream.

No dream? Then free yourself from anything that prevents you from exploring and discovering your dream.

And if you don’t discover your dream, maybe your dream is to simply live. To live happy. To live healthy. To live free. To laugh and to love.

This life is a one-way ticket to a wonderful journey. If you’re not being yourself, then you’re giving that ticket away to somebody else.

You deserve to be yourself.

It’s time to dig deep. It’s time to be strong. It’s time to put your foot down.

This is your chance.



  1. Thank you for great and inspiring words of advised. I totally agree with everything you said here and I can personally attest that if followed wisely, it will indeed lead you to the path of success and happiness. These words you spoken used to be my philosophy and had guided my quest and journey.

    But I am at the point of my life right now where I am not able to use this tool to advance and remove me from the situation that is causing me deep sorrow and constant agony.

    The reason is not because I am afraid to leave my comfort zone. It is not because I stopped believing in myself or my ability. And most definitely not because I stopped trusting my instincts or intuitions. No. None of that. The reason is much simpler. I have lost my desire after finding out what life and love is all about.

    After years of longing, searching, and following the direction of my compass, I found the cycle tiresome and offers no relief nor justification incentive. After many attempts and reaping the same result, one must succumbed to defeat and surrender. Why bother one last time when your instinct is telling you already your distant fate?

    The great conspiracy of this world is upon me. I will carry its burden until my last breath. I was born for this purpose. This is my destiny. I used to believe that I was in charge of my life and destiny. That if I only keep my focus and continue walking the path that my compass is directing me, I will savor the reward of my sacrifice and perseverance. This is not how it works.

    If any of you believe such misconceptions, then you will surely find yourself disappointed and heartbroken at the end of your quest. We are not in control of our life and destiny. Never were. Each of us reads from the scripts of life designated by our role.

    One great finding that I found valuable and comforting to us all is the discovery that there is no such thing as coincidence. Everything happens for a reason. As we journey to our final destination, remember that everything about us, our mistakes, sorrows, and happiness had already been written down prior to us being born. Therefore, there is no such thing as control because we cannot change our fate that had already been assigned. This is not to imply that everyone should just give up and stop trying. No. If you find yourself in struggles of life and were able to pass through the obstacles, do not give yourself credit for your determination. You were able to pass and overcome your hardships because it was your fate and you were programmed to overcome it.

    I am in my current phase for a reason. And I will remain in this state until I figure out what it is that I am supposed to learn or understand about my situation. In other words, what is the moral lesson?

    In conclusion, you sending me this message of great words and inspirations and my reading them and writing this reply are meant to be. I appreciate your gesture of reaching out to those needing support and inspiration. You are fulfilling your destiny. Unfortunately for me, I am to remain untouchable and resistant to any form of suggestions no matter how credible or sensible the fact because I still have not solve the puzzle. But thank you for your concern and great advised. Consider it duly noted.

    Best Wishes,

    Elizabeth Grana Escarpe – 5/29/2017

  2. I will be praying for you Elizabeth. Unfortunately your compass has taken a detour into the land of hopelessness. Recalculate — Recalculate. Set your GPS back towards heavenward bound. God loves you. He knit you together in your mother’s womb. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. He has a plan and purpose for your life. He created you, loves you and sent His only begotten Son to die for you. Seek His face and let Him reveal Himself to you.

    In the words of Winston Churchill, “Never give up ! Never ever give up!” Many people have failed before they succeeded the Beatles, Walt Disney, Thomas Edison and even Einstein.
    So follow your dreams because nothing is impossible with God. The best is yet to come.


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